How long should it take to use the bathroom?

I would give you an estimate of my “time”, Frey, but I only cathed for a few months. After that, I had a Foley for about a year. The Foley ruined my pee pee hole so that it no longer holds water. So now I wear diapers. The Foley was keeping me in a constant state of UTI, and, due to strong spascity, self-cathing was almost impossible. I lived with so much unjust (and ignorant) criticism while in the hospital and nursing homes that I feel like I survived a war zone. I’m glad you can cath at all. Co-existing with people who criticize how you handle such an important part of your health is causing you undeserved stress and is cruel,...whether they admit it or realize it or not. Making you feel that you have to render an account to them for why you are “taking so long” is unkind. They are not showing respect for your injured state.

It is particularly bad that your own family feels they can criticize something they do not do. Suggest to them they practice catheterizing themselves to see how long it takes. "Dear Mummy, I'm so glad your are concerned. Just show me how to do this better?"

I require 15 minutes to cath at home, out in public is a little faster, 10 minutes, because I use the Twist catheter, which is a little quicker. Your position as a young adult means your family would be criticizing something, whether you were injured or not, so you will have to get your own ego and self confidence grown up quickly before these people undermine you. Young adulthood is a hard time for those living at home. Check with us whenever you need to.

As you say, the important thing is to take your time to use safe practices.

Welcome frey! Does you family understand the processed involved with cathing? It’s important that you take your time and do it properly. I think since you were injured last year you’ll eventually get quicker but 10 mins isn’t really a big deal. I hope you can have a sit down with your family and politely explain this to them so that they understand.

give them a catheter and tell them to take their pants off while sitting and pee through this little tube while I time you. Should shut them up.