In addition to all the new learning and relearning I have had to do during my recovery, I have also benefitted from learning to advocate for myself. In practicing this behavior as needed, I came to realize that this experience was important in reestablishing my sense of self and control. To be sure, I have always tried to be polite in speaking on my own behalf, but I have also been assertive. Early in my hospitalization I was transferred to a different facility and was told that they did not have a particular catheter that I used to avoid bleeding and would not be able to get it for me as we were coming into a holiday weekend (Memorial Day). I explained that this was not acceptable nor medically sound. A nurse asked me what I wanted done. I suggested three things: 1- since my bladder was not on holiday they needed to get the damn catheters or 2- move me to a facility that could adequately treat my medical needs or 3- I would call 911 and the police liberate me from this situation and take me to a hospital. Again, I was very assertive but polite. That evening someone came up with the catheters. Have any of you seen self advocacy as beneficial in your recovery?
I regret not having asserted myself on the catheter issue. One nursing home put a Foley catheter that was too large in me, unbeknownst to me, causing me pain for two days. All I did was have then remove the Foley and give me diapers. They hadn’t had the right size catheter for me. It was two nurses that did it. And they knew very well that it was the wrong size, but didn’t tell me.
I regret not having asserted myself on the catheter issue. One nursing home put a Foley catheter that was too large in me, unbeknownst to me, causing me pain for two days. All I did was have then remove the Foley and give me diapers. They hadn’t had the right size catheter for me. It was two nurses that did it. And they knew very well that it was the wrong size, but didn’t tell me.
Sounds like you derived some learning from this episode, good for you! We must listen to ourselves I have come to believe.
“Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.” ~ William James
I spent a year and a half in hospitals and nursing homes before finally getting to go home to my house. I see you are in Connecticut. Texas has the worst nursing homes in the nation. The trick that the Texas nursing homes have learned is that if there is anyone in their right mind who is able to document mistreatment,...what day, what time, who did it,...then the solution to the problem is to ask the person if she feels sad (preferably asking as if they care about the person). If the resident is a rookie and says, “Yes”, then the nursing home gets a doctor (preferably a psychiatrist) to say they need to be protected from themselves. Problem solved. No nail clippers. No shoelaces. No cellphone. This is the Texas nursing home cure to any complaint. Happily, I’d seen enough already not to fall for the “do you feel sad” question. Anyway, my point is that it’s not always about learning to advocate for yourself or improving your gumption. Sometimes the resident is walking a tightrope just to avoid being locked up, ...because the fox is guarding the henhouse.
I spent a year and a half in hospitals and nursing homes before finally getting to go home to my house. I see you are in Connecticut. Texas has the worst nursing homes in the nation. The trick that the Texas nursing homes have learned is that if there is anyone in their right mind who is able to document mistreatment,...what day, what time, who did it,...then the solution to the problem is to ask the person if she feels sad (preferably asking as if they care about the person). If the resident is a rookie and says, “Yes”, then the nursing home gets a doctor (preferably a psychiatrist) to say they need to be protected from themselves. Problem solved. No nail clippers. No shoelaces. No cellphone. This is the Texas nursing home cure to any complaint. Happily, I’d seen enough already not to fall for the “do you feel sad” question. Anyway, my point is that it’s not always about learning to advocate for yourself or improving your gumption. Sometimes the resident is walking a tightrope just to avoid being locked up, ...because the fox is guarding the henhouse.
Great point. It’s tough to criticize those who literally hold your life in their hands.
“Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.” ~ William James