Frustrated with pooping. Need help.

Hi, Mark here. I have been a t2/3 para for close to 40 years. Over first 20 or so years the B was mostly manageable. Not to say it wasn't always in the back of my mind, yet was okay.

See, I don't know sort of routine you are on, but mine have always been every 2 days, in the evening. 1 hour is best case yet 2 hours was generally the rule of thumb. So these last 10 up until 5 years ago (I'll let you in on how I got my life back) I'd go about my business every other day for 1-2 hours. During those many years I would think I am down and then the feeling (hair standing up on your arms) yet 60% of the time, I was NOT! Race back to the washroom yet most times, too late

Been married now for going on 8 years and 5 years ago I read up on colostomy's They scared the he** out of me before yet I was intrigued. I was intrigued to be able to get those say 8 hours a week bac and have FULL control of my routines and no incidents at night. So I brought it up to my wife, sharing all I had learned about them. She says 'it's a no brainer Mark. I see how it effects you when things go wrong and you spend so much of your life in the washroom.

Well, the long and short is it is a game changer. Not sexy, that's for sure yet it gives me piece of mind that I will not have an accident in bed or while I am out and about. Even if you blow a flange, its a 10 minute fix. Waaaaay shorter than having it take place while shopping or whatever. There is no more of the absolute terror (me anyway) KNOWING you are fiddled and will be cleaning up all things for about what, 4 hours from when you get home, get out of the clothes 'carefully' shower change etc YET, your whole outing is done and you missed out/

Trips in the Silverado are worry free, hotels overnight worry free, wanna go overnight fishing, worry free. Heck wanna go to be early, no worries are you are IN control.

Done it and would never look back. Not for everyone, I know. But freedom, should be for everyone.

Sorry my first post is a bit of a run on. I sincerely hope it helps, friend.