Reversing our Perceptions

Definitely a good point lonewolf! Like Lαrα said, it's really not about a persons physical condition that determines whether or not they're a good carer

Haha lonewolf, I know what you mean. Don't worry I'm afraid of heights as well... Though I'm not afraid of roller coasters

This is a really good thread. Many people have judged my ex's in the past, assuming that they were just my caregiver which is completely opposite of what the relationship was. Yes, over a year ago, the guy I spent 5 months with acted as a live-in aid, who, near the end, stop providing care and stopped being involved in the relationship whatsoever. (He cheated on me the entire 5 months we were together.) I get frustrated when people assume that the reason I am in a relationship is because I need a caregiver. I do not. I live 100% independently, and the relationship I am in provides stability and security. I take care of my own house, drive my own vehicle, all that stuff. He doesn't help me with any of that stuff because he doesn't need to. I think people need to open their eyes and realize that just because you cannot walk does not mean you are helpless. I look forward to being a stay-at-home girlfriend, to send my man to work with coffee every morning, make dinner, do the laundry, all that good stuff. To me, that is caring. Being there for each other, caring for each other, that is what a relationship is about. A relationship means you are each other's caregivers, regardless of ability.

My caption for a strong couplehood is both looking in the same direction. Instead of focusing on what we lost that we may never get back, we get creative coming up with new ways to embrace life and rewriting how we can do a lot of things we did before. I think the most difficult hurdle is patience.