Some days, like today, I am reminded or shown that some good can come from having a spinal cord injury/CES/CMS/disability. I made a list to remind myself that my SCI isn't always a bad thing. Here it is... 1. There is no way I could have afforded an apartment of my very own in the area I live in. Most 1 bedroom apartments go for $1100+/month! After my injury, I was able to get into an income-based apartment and now live all by myself. 2. It showed me who my real friends were and I learned that my accident, injury, and s...l...o...w... recovery put stress on my family too, not just me. It brought me closer to my parents and sister. 3. I get the good parking spots now 4. I had really bad dysmenhorrea that birth control hardly put a dent in. Now, the cramps and backaches don't make me scream in pain because I am mostly numb from my belly button down. 5. I got a discount of 50% at a hotel when I went out of town for the weekend because all their accessible rooms were filled. We got a full suite-- It was like a tiny one bedroom apartment! The front desk clerk brought a chair from the pool up to our suite because we forgot my shower chair. It was the absolute best experience at a hotel ever!
Its always a great idea to look at the positives! The positive for me is that despite anything and everything I try to push myself to do better in every way I can.
I have had some tough lessons, ive learnt to rely on myself and not anyone else. Ive learnt to take care of myself and not to trust what im told any more, doctors being at the top of the list! My SCI has brought me experiences i wouldnt have had, is that good or bad.? I cant say.
Im at a point where im re assessing my life, my friends and family, men, so at this point its my dog and my mom who i have come to learn care the most and i can rely on.
I used to do everything for everyone, i used to help care for my ill cousin, if friends were ill I would cook them homemade food. I taught most of my friends kids to ride for free and helped literally anyone who needed help.
SCI and being less able taught me that im only as good as my use for someone, cynical , maybe yes.
On the positive, im stronger wiser and I havent given up and i love life and im not bitter !
Thankyou for sharing your positives with us Knight.
My positives are that I had to change to working part time and this actually gives me more time with my family. My focus used to be on my career but now my focus has shifted and i enjoy and appreciate what I have so much more now.
Great post Knight,makes me happy to see your mind going in this direction. For me, I had to slow down and be less involved in DOING, more in BEING. I am living my priorities more effectively and consciously. People who are toxic, or not interested in exchange of giving to each other, have been left my life or are being rooted out. I wan to spend my limited time and energy positively, with more joy.
Great post Knight,makes me happy to see your mind going in this direction. For me, I had to slow down and be less involved in DOING, more in BEING. I am living my priorities more effectively and consciously. People who are toxic, or not interested in exchange of giving to each other, have been left my life or are being rooted out. I wan to spend my limited time and energy positively, with more joy.
Great post Knight,makes me happy to see your mind going in this direction. For me, I had to slow down and be less involved in DOING, more in BEING. I am living my priorities more effectively and consciously. People who are toxic, or not interested in exchange of giving to each other, have been left my life or are being rooted out. I wan to spend my limited time and energy positively, with more joy.