Post by Deleted on Jul 10, 2013 7:22:08 GMT -8
So I'm going to talk about a little discussed area and that's: numb sexual parts!
I have noticed a reluctance or avoidance to bring this subject to attention by medical practitioners who have had any dealings with me. We seem to be asked and tested and advised about everything from self catheterising, indwellings, anal tone but never numb private bits 
To me it is just as relevant and important a loss of function as any other. The lack of sensation, I could do nothing about but i did get used to it. My orgasms were very hard worked for and frustrating to say the least. I needed much more imagination and use of aids and a considerate and caring partner, though until i met this person I did ride solo at the start and did fine, but it is so much better to enjoy when sharing the experience with your partner! 
The first time that i managed to orgasm I had one huge bladder spasm after and it almost put me off trying again but not being one to give up, I persevered and good I did because over time and practice they improved.
Initially, they were weak and quite frustrating as they would trail off just before peaking but now I can manage to achieve quite a strong orgasm though they will never be as they were pre-SCI ....so my advice is...apply the saying 'If you don't use it you will lose it theory' and never give up.
If you want to discuss anything about this subject feel free to pm me, i can tell you which 'aids' i found useful too...
