The need for connectedness(is that a word?)

Hello again, Charliemosbrook. That was a nice newsy post. The steps getting in and out of your living quarters are something that requires your persistent attention. My front door was only one step up, yet before getting my ramp, that 'one' step caused major hassle. When I read of other forum members who have spiffy equipment, mind-blowing activities, and the ability to stand, I imagine them as also having solved access problems, like steps. So, yes, those steps, an alternate route, or changing to a different home must be addressed in order to put you back in your normally happy, productive, supportive-of-others life. You've reached a bottle-neck.

Charlie-
I am so sorry to hear of your hip injury. My own stories of injuries certainly will not encourage a newbie, except maybe to encourage caution. I don't think being at "full strength" is necessary when visiting more recently injured people. To me honesty and being real are most important. True, if you become a chronic Debbie Downer it's time to leave the inspirational talk circuit, but being honest that there are downs as well as ups can only make your entire message more believable. Real connection matters most, IMO, a need you are clearly aware of.

My own hip was injured in my SCI accident and a subsequent fall 3 years later made it much worse. No docs or chiropractors could figure out what was wrong initially and it took me years to analyze from the inside out, by which time it was permanent if it had not been originally. This is just real life. While a problem is fresh we search hard for answers, but sometimes there are none. This is not something to cry on a newly injured person's shoulder about, but there's no harm in saying you are currently handling a problem related to a new injury. I think it gives you more in common with a new person, in one sense.

It is natural that people whose medical problems more severely restrict their activities spend more time on forums and I've seen some folks withdraw because we can be 'too depressing.' The fact that we are here when the going gets tough is a good thing. All relationships ebb and flow and I'm glad you are motivated to flow back into this group. You have been a beacon for the possibility of living a good life post SCI. If you feel up to modeling honesty about the depression that often comes with new physical problems I think we can benefit from that , too.

Note to all- when we need to move best get a place that is fully accessible.  Plan for the worst and hope for the best.

The proper word is Connection, but I don't suppose anyone cares!