Post by Lαrα on Sept 27, 2013 12:38:01 GMT -8
Im interested on hearing members thoughts on this.....Do you think that some people take the easy option and allow more to be done for us that needed?
I know in the early days post SCI, just after my op, i was very weak and due to loss of mobility and function i needed a high degree of care.
I was desperately unhappy and frustrated about losing my independence and worked hard to regain it. I went through sweat and tears to achieve what i have, up to this day and i still continue to work hard.
Most people with SCI that i have met totally work very hard at gaining independence but i have also observed some people who seem to not try and just let others do for them for whatever reasons they choose.
I understand that family members have seen their loved ones go through a devastating and traumatic event that very often left them totally reliant on them for all their care needs but can sometimes family members also create dependency?
My mum in particular has found my independence difficult to accept, she sometimes seems almost offended when i say i don't need her help...maybe she had her 'child' back for some time who she could care for again.
Or maybe its not so easy for them to actually see us getting stronger day by day?......or maybe some people just dont push their improvements and keep themselves in a voluntary dependent state?
Juts throwing some thoughts around and thinking out loud? 
