Is nerve regeneration possible? Does anyone ever get better

Hi camellia,  welcome and I'm sorry that you've had to seek us out.  I know little about the type of damage which has happened to your spinal cord but I do know that once damage is done to the cord, it cannot heal..... the reason many of us have improvement during the time after injury occurs is mostly due to inflammation and swelling going down.... but with that being said... there are many people who keep getting improvement years down the track.

As for your occupational therapist saying that you should be in a wheelchair.....my advice (without fully knowing how bad you are) is to walk as much as you can, once you stop walking, you will lose the strength to walk....many SCI people have balance issues and use aides to help them, be it either canes, arm crutches or rollators...myself, I have been walking for 20 years and have only just recently bought myself a rollator because my balance has deteriorated....I was a bit stubborn in that I didnt want to buy one but because i left it for a while, my balance got even worse because I wasnt walking enough....in just the few weeks that I have started walking more, my balance has improved just a little.

Have you seen a spinal cord specialist or has it just been your occupational therapist who has been advising you?  If not, then its vitally important that you see someone who is a specialist with spinal cord damage, there are things that you can do and take for your spasticity but you need a specialist to advise you.