I came across an article today which covers some of the social aspects that being a wheelchair user affects. It brings up some interesting points.
''Tons more people remember me than I remember them. It's like a low level of fame. It also becomes your defining characteristic.''
''And as visible as you might be in some ways, to some people, the truth is that not a lot of people know what it's really like to be you, in that chair, with all the extra things you have to think about and do. Some people probably do resist offering you an opportunity, asking you on a date, including you in their social circle because of the extra baggage you carry. '' But I guess that's true of a lot of other people, too.
Im sure that we many of us can relate to some of this..i must admit that when i was first injured and was in a chair, i felt it would be an inconvenience for friends to come pick me up to go somewhere with them. It wasnt just me they were taking, it meant helping with my chair any extras that i would need to take,.
Then theres the positive which is just fine but then there is the negative attention (esp for us girls and the wierdo guys). I actually wonder how many AB's would cope spending just a day in a chair..
Butiki this was an issue for me too.. although im not remotely tall at 5'2... ......i didnt like to be looked down on , i did however change my attitude about this and it can be pretty cool using a chair
I think that OUR attitude shapes others attitude and response to us. When im out in my chair i always sit 'proud' and make eye contact with people and am friendly. This is my personality and how i was before my accident so i like people to see that i am confident and pleasant and approachable.
I think that one of the biggest pain in the butts is having accessibility to consider when we go anywhere...I wish that every publicly used venue gave more information on their accessibility for chair users. Not just the government adaptations but had went that bit further and offered more info on their website (for example) gave more info on the floor surface..(our cinemas use carpet often) are the levels flat....what kind of doors do they use....then some people who have the option of a manual and a power chair can decide which chair will be best, and wether they can manage alone or need some assistance.
I do think that in our country (its just coming to mind) we have a scheme that offers people with mobility issues free transport to social events so im going to find out about this. This kind of scheme would help more people get out and about especially those without their own transport. It would enable chair users to be more independent.
I think there is no reason why someone in a chair cant lead a full social life but it can certainly be easier.